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Sacrament of Marriage
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The parish family of Our Lady of Mount Virgin Church offers to support and guide you as you prepare for your wedding. There are many things to be done in preparation for your celebration of this Sacrament. To insure the sanctity of your wedding, please review this carefully.
Your spiritual development as a couple is the most important aspect of your marriage preparation. As you enter the church and come before the altar, you are recounting the steps which many others have taken. These steps represent a new identity which will be centered on a relationship built on faith in God and faith in each other.
Marriage is a sacrament which lasts until death, We are here to help you prepare for this profound experience of God’s love that will be showered upon you on your wedding day and every day of your married life.
The sacraments are essential to the life of the church. Therefore, adequate marriage preparation is necessary to the reception of the sacrament of matrimony.
Sacramental Preparation
We recommend that you celebrate the sacrament of penance particularly prior to your wedding. This sacrament affords you the opportunity to experience the forgiveness of the Lord and the strength to resist temptation.
We also recommend that you attend Mass every Sunday so that you may be strengthened by the Eucharist. By making Jesus number one in you life, you will be truly preparing for the sacrament of marriage. Your presence is important not only for one another, but also for the parish community. It speaks volumes.
Documents from the Church
Persons not baptized in Our Lady of Mount Virgin Church must contact the church of their baptism to receive a copy of their Baptismal Certificate. This copy is not returned.
Because marriage in the Catholic Church is a sacrament, either the best man of the maid of honor, preferably both, should be practicing Catholics.
The marriage license is obtained from the town of the bride. One witness will also be needed (over 18 years) when you apply for the license. APPLY NO LATER THAT ONE WEEK IN ADVANCE. The witness must know both the bride and the groom.
Documents from civil authorities
The civil license, church and music fees must be brought to the rehearsal.
Preparatory Sessions
The couple will meet the priest:
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Initial information meeting of PMI and FOCUS Inventory
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After Pre-Cana
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Follow-up Session
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Rehearsal
Archdiocesan policy requires each couple to attend either a Pre-Cana or Engaged Encounter. Plans to attend either should be made well in advance by contacting the Family Life Office.
Rehearsals can be scheduled at a mutually agreed upon date and time. The rehearsal will last about one hour. Confession is always offered at the rehearsal.
Music
Periodically, Pastor Peter and our Director of Sacred Music, Roberto Sabastiani, will host a liturgy/music planning session with refreshments for all couples wishing to hear wedding music for Mr. Sabastiani’s repertoire. If you cannot attend, planning documents will be sent or emailed to you, along with a list of suggested websites that have music samples to listen to, in order to help make your selections. Mr. Sabastiani is available for brief consultations over the phone, or in person before or after Mass if arranged in advance at (201) 725-5927. Because couples need to select music which reflects the dignified worship of God, secular music is not appropriate. Music must be selected 6 weeks before the date of your wedding – additional fees may apply if this deadline is not met. “Bench fees” are in place for our hired musicians.
Flowers, Photography, Church Fees, Miscellaneous
Floral decorations should include no more that three baskets which can be places in front of the main alter and tow along the sides of the tabernacle altar. It is customary to leave flowers for the decoration of the church during the weekend. No form of tape or adhesive may be used to secure decorations to church furnishings. Please advise your florist. Also, no tape should be used to affix the runner to the floor.
During the Christmas and Easter seasons, the church sanctuary is already decorated with floral pieces. To purchase extra is not necessary. Also, please consult with the parish as to whether or not there are weddings before yours on the same day. This will ensure for tasteful decoration and could possibly save you money.
In choosing photographers and videographers, please know that they must not distract those who attend the ceremony, or the bride and groom.
We do not allow pictures or videos to be taken from with the sanctuary. This is to ensure both reverence for God and the prevention of unnecessary distractions.
Offerings and Stipends
Church offering is $300.00
*$400.00 for non-registered parishioners
The Cantor’s stipend: $150.00
The Organist stipend: $175.00, or $225 if no Cantor is requested
(one 30-minute in-person or phone consultation is included;
$75 per additional consult or wedding rehearsal)
Sacristan offering: $25.00
The throwing of rice at the end of the ceremony is prohibited. Rice is the primary food source of our brothers and sisters in the third world. We believe that to waste this food is not consistent with our option for the poor. We suggest using bird seed. Please inform your guests of this policy. Also, flower girls are not permitted to drop flower petals down the aisle.
Proper Attire
It is important that the wedding day party select attire which is consistent with virtue of modesty and appropriate to the dignity of Christian worship. Sweetheart top dresses which completely expose the shoulders are not appropriate.
In Closing
Finally, we ask that if your will be living in Garfield after your wedding that your notify the parish of your new address. If your are moving we encourage you to register at the local parish in your new neighborhood. Your faith life must be continually nurtured in an environment conducive to spiritual growth.
We thank you for your kind cooperation and invite you to call us at 973-772-2295 regarding further clarifications and/or questions.
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